Infertility can feel like one of the most isolating journeys you have to walk along in life. Around the Feast of All Saints, we wanted to create a Litany of Infertility Saints so you know that, along with us here on earth, you have heavenly companions who not only pray for you, but who deeply understand the cross you are carrying. May your cross feel a little lighter, the grief more bearable, as you pray this litany.

I'll never forget receiving the news about the death of Baby Jude. I learned of his presence and departure in the same email. The grief was enormous and it shook me. We came up with the idea of a virtual garden as a place of remembrance...Jude is now joined in the garden by his brother Gabriel, who was added only last month.

Many of us know someone who has lost a child due to miscarriage but it can be challenging or uncomfortable to know what to say and how best to support them if you haven’t experienced baby loss yourself.

God sees what I cannot. Nothing is hidden from Him. Every beginning rests in His hands. I do not need perfect clarity to trust Him. The Church does not ask me to count my losses. She asks me to entrust everything to God's mercy. That includes my confusion. That includes the moments I was afraid to love too soon.

Discernment within a marriage is not always "fair" or easy. Especially when you may feel as if the discernment process was not equally yoked. How can my desires not align with my spouse; the person my soul is so intimately intertwined with? We both entered into the same covenant with God. We should be on the same page. Right?

I have realized that while I may have wanted a definitive answer, I wasn’t likely to receive it. I don’t have to make a big “forever decision”. My husband and I simply have to discern and decide what is best for us now, at this stage in life, or even just this month. At any juncture we can change course if we want to.

Infertility is a trauma which can begin, fuel and feed anger. Those long-held grudges, even that righteous anger at our situation, can impact ourselves and our relationships poorly. Forgiveness releases that debt. Forgiveness keeps you from the "poison" of frequently holding onto or suppressing your anger. To know that there is freedom from the tension we find ourselves in is indeed liberating.

No prayer offered in faith is ever wasted. Some prayers bloom quickly, others take years. Some may not blossom until eternity. But every prayer entrusted to God is heard. So do not lose hope. Continue praying, trusting, believing that God is working, even when you cannot yet see the fruit. May we become pillars of perpetual faith

The love didn't begin with those pink lines, and it didn't end when the heartbeat stopped. This loss impacts us on a level that is at once spiritual, emotional, neurological and physical...Healing is not about "moving on from the loss", but rather moving on with the love you have for your child...Grief lingers because love came first, and that love never truly leaves us.

I never needed to try to fit in. I always have a place with Him. The things that make me unique may be the very things that allow me to connect with and help others. God can take the very place of our deep sorrow and hurt and transform it to become a fruitful place where others find hope and feel God's love.